Wedding Season is upon us, my friends, while some old school rules may no longer apply, there are still some tried and true guidelines for etiquette that have stood the test of time. Keep reading to catch five of my tips on being a great wedding guest.
ALWAYS, ALWAYS RETURN YOUR RSVP.
Weddings are expensive. Weddings take a lot of time and thoughtfulness to plan. And yet, it’s inevitable that every couple that has ever thrown a fete of this magnitude will still have guests show up that didn’t RSVP or return the reply card to the wedding invitation in time. All the potential frustration for the couple can be easily avoided by filling out that little card (or filling out a form for those modern couples going paperless!) while we are on the subject, do not be the one to go MIA. Once you commit, you have to show up, end of story. And don’t forget to write your name on the RSVP card! It’s amazing how many blank cards some couples receive, and they can’t figure out who just RSVP’d.
LETS TALK ABOUT PLUS ONES.
Ah, the guests’ guest. Do not assume that you are entitled to bring a guest to a wedding, you are not. Study the invitation. If your significant other listed by name on the envelope? If so, yay! They are absolutely invited. If you are unsure about the status of a potential plus one on a couples list, study the invitation. Did they include space for you to bring a guest? Don’t feel bad for clarifying the couple’s expectations, especially if it well before the wedding date. DO NOT fill out your RSVP card the week before the wedding, AND DO NOT try to cram 5 people on your invite. Finally, there are some weddings that just flat out don’t include a plus one, and that is okay. Keep in mind, though you may be a much loved guest: this day is not about you.
PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY.
I mean it. In today’s typical wedding, a large number of phones still intercede as each guest’s third eye. Nowadays, a cell phone without a camera is unheard of, and the capability of smartphones being able to snap decent pictures, every guest seems to think that they can get a great shot and that they are entitled to do so. The trouble is they often get in the way of the real photographer. There was a time when (I suppose) it was still considered normal, when camera phones were first introduced. But now, when every second cousin has an IG story to update and when every aunt or great uncle has an iPad with HD-quality camera, the situation has gotten a tad out of hand. Not only does this run the risk of affecting the professionally taken photographs, but the wedding experience itself may also decrease significantly. Think about it: it’s upsetting to walk down an aisle and not be able to see the guests’ facial expressions, just a sea of peoples faces being blocked by their devices. Put it away and be present.
DON’T WEAR WHITE.
Or cream. Or bone, or ivory, or stone. Keep it in your closet for another occasion, do not pull it out for someone else’s wedding.
PAY ATTENTION TO THE DRESS CODE.
You never want to show up underdressed for someone’s wedding. Even if it states that the event is casual, always wear a dress, skirt or suit. Dress for the venue, but be sure to follow instructions from the bride and groom. And a note about shoes for the ladies: No matter the day’s fashion guidelines, use common sense when choosing footwear for an outside event (I have found a good pair of wedges to be my saving grace for more formal, outdoor event) Otherwise, you might find your pointy stilettos sinking into mud, grass or sand with each well-heeled step you take.
What tips do you have for surviving Wedding Season?